There is no secret occult arts to influence people and make friends. Building blocks of social intelligence and practicing good social skills can improve your life. For that you have to be a kind person, who love, care and give importance to others, if you really want to win heart of others. Now read and think, how to make people to like you and how to make people to do what you want.
Do not Criticize : When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. we are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. Instead of condemning, criticizing or complaining people, let’s try to understand them. let’s try to figure out why they do, what they do.
Give honest and sincere appreciation to others : The best way to get anybody to do anything is by making the other person want to do it by giving what he want. And everybody do anything springs from a feeling of importance. Make the other personn feel important and do it sincerely.
Think about what others want : When you go for fishing you think about what fish want. If there is any secret of success “it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
Become interested in other people : Be Genuinely Interested In Other People. Greet people with animation and enthusiasm. Remembering a person’s name, asking them questions that encourage them to talk about themselves so you discover their interests and passions. You make more friends by becoming genuinely interested in other people than by trying to get other people interested in you.
Make a Good impression : The key factor of making a good impression is you capitative smile and expression. The effect of is powerful, even when it is unseen. A real smile, a heartwarming smile, a smile that comes from within will bring a good price in marketplace. People who smile, tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively. The expression wears on face is far more important than the clothes. Action speaks louder than the words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I an glad to see you.”
Do not try to win an arguement : The best way to win an arguement is to avoid it. if it is not possible to avoid then keep these things into mind, Distrust your first instinctive impression, control your temper, listen first, begin in a friendly way, look for areas of agreement, be honest, promise to think over your opponents, thank your opponents sincerely for their interest, postpone action to give both sides time to think through problem. show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say you are wrong. if you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
Have Others Believe Your Conclusion Is Their Own : People can not be forced to believe anything, and persuasive people understand the power of suggestion over demand. Learn to plant the seed, and instead of telling people they’re wrong, find the common ground and persuade them that what they really want is your desired outcome. Dramatize your idea. Throw down a challenge. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or her.
Make People Feel Important : Be sympathetic with other person’s ideas and desires. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. And if required, call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise. Smiling, knowing people’s names, praising people, making an effort to know their interests and chat about them make people feel important. If you make people feel important then you will definately feel pleasant and incredible experience to influence people and make friends.